tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628819324496679278.post8445693462069049142..comments2023-10-26T02:34:29.949-07:00Comments on The Book Share: Refuse the Sucker's ChoiceJ.D. Meierhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02678290889994566788noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628819324496679278.post-5193319956796541172008-08-08T21:24:00.000-07:002008-08-08T21:24:00.000-07:00Hey Andrew -> 'And' is inclusive and pr...Hey Andrew -<BR/><BR/>> 'And' is inclusive and presupposes that there is room for both perspectives<BR/>Well put!J.D. Meierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02678290889994566788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628819324496679278.post-26385219423860936422008-08-08T10:32:00.000-07:002008-08-08T10:32:00.000-07:00This is great stuff - especially for the practical...This is great stuff - especially for the practical applications. One thing I've noticed is that substituting the word 'And' for 'But' is great for diffusing tension and gaining agreement. 'But' negates whatever goes before it, such as what the other person said, whereas 'And' is inclusive and presupposes that there is room for both perspectives. Often, I find that new solutions are synthesized when I take this approach.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628819324496679278.post-33532346823177371052007-12-28T22:12:00.000-08:002007-12-28T22:12:00.000-08:00Great to hear. I think even just knowing the type...Great to hear. I think even just knowing the types of roles we play helps (Manager, Entrepreneur and Technician -http://thebookshare.blogspot.com/2007/12/entrepreneur-manager-and-technician.html) Another thing that might help is Six thinking Hats (http://thebookshare.blogspot.com/2007/05/six-thinking-hats.html). You can both wear the same hats at the same time to agree on perspectives. This helps with rapport. If you don't first build rapport, influence is a challenge.J.D. Meierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02678290889994566788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628819324496679278.post-87225011597559543012007-12-27T23:37:00.000-08:002007-12-27T23:37:00.000-08:00this great recipe can be easily adapted to run a s...this great recipe can be easily adapted to run a successful meeting! i can rephrase it:<BR/>- set an agenda [what you really want]<BR/>- set and expected outcomes [what’s beyond this is what you really do not want]<BR/>- stay focused on it [that is hell complex problem :), people easily tend to get distracted during the meeting]Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com